How To: Pray with Purpose

How To: Pray with Purpose


Everyone’s experience in prayer and faith is so different. I’m sometimes hesitant about posting about certain topics because I never want to tell anyone what to do when concerning their faith. But, there really should be no shame in sharing the gospel and your beliefs… so here goes!

I mentioned this in a previous post (Read My Faith Journey here) but I’ve learned how to pray with purpose and to get the most out of my conversations with God. I’m so happy with where I am in my faith (it could always be better though) and I wanted to share my tips for purposeful prayer with you now!

Ask the Lord for Forgiveness

Every time I bow my head to pray, I ALWAYS start by asking the Lord to forgive me for all of my sins. Sometimes I name specific sins (especially if I’m feeling guilty) and other times I generalize. I never want my prayers to be hindered so I make this a mandatory necessity in my daily prayers.

Some of you may be thinking that the Lord already forgave us for our sins when Jesus died on the Cross. This is true, but think of it this way:

What if you wrecked your parent’s car (on accident or on purpose, I don’t judge)? When they found out, you didn’t apologize or even acknowledge it because you assumed and already knew that they would forgive you and love you anyway. Even though they probably would, you giving them an apology and acknowledging your wrong doing is a sign of respect and regret-fullness.

This is the same with the Lord. Even though we know He forgives us and loves us unconditionally, asking Him for forgiveness and acknowledging our transgressions is an important part of being a Christian. I choose to respect the Lord and our relationship in this way.

How to: Pray with Purpose

Make your Conversations Personal

Think of God as your best friend… literally! He’s there with you always. He’s always a listening ear and He always has your back. Talk to Him this way. He wants to listen to your worries and your desires. He’s here to help so lay it all out! Don’t worry about sounding needy or whiny. There literally are no judgments. Once you become comfortable and learn to relax, your prayers will become more effortless.

Ask for Your Desires and Confess Your Worries

Many people believe that praying purposefully means that you aren’t asking for what you want but praying over what you have. I agree and disagree with this statement. I believe that if you have something on your heart that you wish to see in your life… say it! Again, there is no judgment in this circumstance. I practice a happy balance. I pray over my desires, over my blessed life (family and friends), and over the stressful worries I may be facing.

Now, there IS such thing as praying selfishly, meaning you only pray about what you want and over what’s not going your way. This is so counterproductive and just rude! This isn’t helping you grow your relationship with the Lord but frankly wasting your time. If you can’t acknowledge and thank the Lord for your blessings, then why would He acknowledge your worries? He still will, because that’s the great and powerful God we serve, but I like to think of it this way because I want to keep that level of gratitude and respect for Him in any way I can.

Stay Encouraged and Be Patient!

There will be many days and nights where you think your prayers aren’t being heard. This isn’t true and can cause so much discouragement. You have to know that everything is on God’s time and not on yours. Just because you want it now, doesn’t mean God wants to give it to you now. Understand this and practice patience. You will be so fulfilled when it comes to you. Stay focused… don’t let the ways of the world distract you from this.

How to: Pray with Purpose

Pray Continuously

It’s so important to make praying apart of your everyday routine. Not even just a routine, but in times where things are hard, happy, or sad, pray in those moments to God. Divulge everything to him and I promise the more you do it and the more you become comfortable, the better you’ll feel after it. Praying is not only about talking to God but also about being able to recognize when God is speaking back to you (subtly or not).

I do believe praying with purpose takes practice but I also believe it’s not hard if you set your mind to it. Ultimately, you have to want to gain a better relationship from it. I wish I could go on and on about how prayer has helped me and how many miracles I’ve seen happen from it but what I will say is that God is so good, yall. All the time.

How To: Pray with Purpose


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Be Blessed –




  1. July 16, 2017 / 2:56 pm

    This is so inspiring and empowering. I’m always looking for ways to improve my prayer life and relationship with God so I really enjoyed this. & I completely agree with you about making sure to pray about the blessings that we’ve already received as well as about our desires and worries. It’s so important to acknowledge all of God’s blessings!

    • July 16, 2017 / 3:25 pm

      I’m so glad you enjoyed this, Deanna! Acknowledging God is so important and that’s really what I wanted to emphasis.

  2. Katie
    July 17, 2017 / 9:27 am

    Prayer is so great. My next step is praying out loud, that’s hard for me. Great post 🙂

    • July 17, 2017 / 1:49 pm

      Oh yes. Prayer aloud especially with other people around can definitely be hard. Just put yourself out there more, practice makes perfect!

  3. July 17, 2017 / 9:41 am

    You are so wise! I love this post! I start my prayers asking for forgiveness, too! This is often overlooked but is so important, like you said! Great post 🙂

    • July 17, 2017 / 1:52 pm

      Thank you so much! I’m glad you could relate to my first point. It’s so important!

  4. July 18, 2017 / 9:40 am

    I truly appreciate this post. Thanks for this purposeful reminder to pray throughout the day!

    • July 18, 2017 / 12:29 pm

      No problem & thanks for reading! <3

  5. July 18, 2017 / 12:37 pm

    This is such a great post! I know my prayer life needs major improvement. This was so helpful!

    • July 18, 2017 / 3:10 pm

      Thank you and thanks so much for reading!

  6. Rechelle
    July 18, 2017 / 4:28 pm

    It is so inspiring as your mother to see you grow personally and spiritually.

    • July 18, 2017 / 5:06 pm

      Thank you, Mom! That means a lot from you!!

  7. July 19, 2017 / 2:10 pm

    I try to have my mind on Christ and looking for Him everywhere throughout the day. Good point that prayer is about listening for Him too. I know I need to be quiet more often. I’m sure He has something to say.

    • July 19, 2017 / 3:20 pm

      I love this. It’s so important to listen and understand Him. Thank so much for reading, Marsha!

  8. July 19, 2017 / 7:52 pm

    Love this! I talk to Him all the time but struggle with feeling like I can ask for stuff…I’m working on that though <3 Thanks for this! ‪#BLMGirl

    • July 19, 2017 / 9:02 pm

      Aww! I completely understand! Thanks so much for reading, Katherine. (:

  9. July 20, 2017 / 11:29 am

    Funny thing is I was just thinking to myself the other day that I forgot how to pray. I was so much better at it when I was younger. But it also has to do with my current relationship with God. I need to work on it more. #BLMGirl

    • July 20, 2017 / 1:16 pm

      I’m a firm believer that prayer takes practice. You can always pray about working on your relationship with God as a start to getting back into it. God bless!

  10. Robin
    July 20, 2017 / 8:40 pm

    I LOVE this post! So so so proud of you!

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