I’m BACKKKK! Like a never even left. Ha! GABFEST Vol. III coming at you live and direct.
Is it just me or did that sound like a bomb verse on a new hit single? Stay tuned.
Anyway, let’s kick things off with another GABFEST post. Ready, Set, GO!
THANKFUL & BLESSED
Thanksgiving just passed and of course, it got me thinking about all the wonderful things I’m grateful for this year. I’ve been blessed tremendously and beyond measure. Many of you don’t know but I was offered a job that I accepted and I can now say that I will officially be employed when I graduate in May! If you remember my post about grad school (click here to read) then you know this was one of my Top 5 goals for this school year. I’m so relieved to mark this off of my list and to be able to relax a little. Now, all I have to do is get through the grad school part…
Beyond an amazing job, I am just so thankful for my family and friends that are alive and healthy. I’ve lost people and gained friends and even reconnected with people I thought were lost but all in all, I’m so happy with where my life is and who is enjoying life with me. It’s crazy how fast life can change but I’m on the ride, changing and moving with it.
THE TRUTH ABOUT BLOGGING
So it’s no secret that my blogging and social media presence has been lacking the last 2 months. I started this gig trying to have a brand-spankin’ new post up every week and as I got deeper into my semester that idea just couldn’t be the done (effectively) anymore.
A part of me feels so bad and a failure for letting that happen. I feel like I’m letting my haters win who said this would only be a short-lived hobby. Of course, that’s not the case and I love blogging more than I ever thought I would but my inspiration and time just doesn’t permit sometimes.
If you aren’t a blogger, you may think this is easy. Just writing a post and publishing it. Well, news-flash, these post can be very time consuming and don’t even get me started on the process of getting nice, pretty graphics in the post so you’ll actually read it. It’s a task for sure and one that I’ve accepted but I put so much pressure on myself to be the best at it. Call me a perfectionist.
I’m re-evaluating my goals for the new year and where I want to take my blog. Sometimes I think of Unbothered Style as a business and other times I want it to be the hobby I intended for it to be. I’ve realized it’s no fun when I’m on a time crunch or I’m just trying to appeal to the masses and get page views. The passive side of me says “Just find that happy medium! You can be both!” but the realistic side of me says “Really? You know you don’t like to half-ass anything!”
I’m not sure what I’ll do but I am setting a goal that I’ll at least have a plan by Jan. 1st. We’ll keep this as a rolling topic.
NETFLIX & CHILL
You know this wouldn’t be a GABFEST without updating you on the latest and greatest shows I’ve binged.
If you aren’t a fan of Stranger Things then what are you doing? The new season came out a few weeks ago and of course, I watched it in a just a few days. It was way more suspenseful and scarier than last season. I can honestly say this is one of the better shows on Netflix (even though Netflix comes out with BOMB shows) and I remember mentioning this show on my Top 10 Fav Shows. Needless to say, if you’re looking for something to watch… START STRANGER THINGS.
Okay, this one is a tear-jerker and will have you crying from the beginning of the season to the end. This Is Us is currently my favorite show to date because it dives so effortlessly into the struggles of families and ethnicity. I use to hear people talk about this show a year ago and I had said I wanted to see it but didn’t get to it until this year. I’m so happy I did because this show really defies the odds and makes you look at things so much differently and realistically. No family is perfect and everyone has their struggles. 10/10 for this one!
Do yall remember that crazy little show called Desperate Housewives back in the day? Well, I found it on Hulu and started watching it again. Yes, I watched it when it first came out in 2004 (I was 9 so I’m not sure why I was watching it then) but I decided to restart it and get my life once again. If you like drama with a splash of comedy then you’ll love this show! They have me cracking up morning and night. I’m currently in season 5 of 8 so I’ll be done in no time, unfortunately.
STRUGGLES IN THE CHURCH
I wish I didn’t have to talk about this but I pride myself on being honest with myself and you guys on Unbothered Style so that’s exactly what I’m going to do.
My church and my pastor have been going through some struggles recently. Without going into too much depth (of the little information I have) there has been some sort of investigation and misconduct between my pastor and another individual that was a member of our church. Either way, it has been concluded that he has resigned and my church that I’ve grown up in is now almost unrecognizable to me.
When I tell you there is no greater feeling of loss and true confusion when the place that you’ve grown to love and has brought you so much peace is no longer that place. Just overnight, I’m basically churchless and straying from the Lord.
I know many of you will say “But there’s plenty of churches around… just go find another one!” and you are right. There are plenty of churches I could visit and grow to love but can I mourn the one I just loss? Can I feel sad that I no longer have the Pastor that delivered those perfectly crafted messages from God to me and my life? Can I not feel bad that this kind of behavior was happening in MY church and that now I no longer feel like I have a church home? Can I feel those feelings… because I do.
It’s like losing a relationship. Do you just pick up and go find another boyfriend or girlfriend to fill the void that the other one left (some of you do, I know) or do you take some time to grieve, re-evaluate yourself, and pick up the pieces? I’m choosing to do the latter.
I’m not saying that my relationship with God will be non-existent or diminish (I won’t let that happen) but as I go through this process I’m continuing to pray and ask God for my next steps. This setback is a set up for a great comeback and I know this will only lead to better things in the long run. I just have to get over this hump now. One day at a time.
That’s all for this week babes! I wish I could have gone on and on but let’s save the rest for later. As always, comment your thoughts! I’d love to hear them and chat with you all.
Love you always.
Until Next Time –