21 Lessons Learned at 21

21 Lessons Learned at 21

21 Lessons Learned at 21


Today is the day! My 22nd birthday! For some reason, this birthday feels more monumental than any other recent birthday. Why, you ask? I don’t think I can quite pen-point it to just one thing but I definitely feel very happy and content with my life right now. Everything is so peaceful and uplifting and just good right now in my life. I’m so thankful for it but I also know life has its waves and this can easily be gone tomorrow.

With that being said, today I choose to be happy, feel happy, and celebrate my birthday like a real-life Queen!

As I look back on the past year, I decided to compile a list of 21 lessons that I’ve learned in the last year that have really changed me in some way. It’s honestly been a crazy year and I feel like I’ve changed so much! Keep on reading for my 21 lessons learned while being 21.


21 Lessons Learned at 21


1. People aren’t going to change just because you want them to.

2. Friendships end and new ones begin.

3. Do Christian things because God is watching, not because others are.

4. Don’t force it, boo. It’s just not meant to be.

5. Don’t half ass it! Go all the way!

6. Your dreams don’t need to compare to anyone else’s.

7. I’m an extroverted introvert.

8. Giving up isn’t an option.

9. It’s okay to experiment but learn your limits!

10. I AM a good person.

11. Don’t stress about not knowing your purpose. Many people don’t. Pray about it.

12. Starting over isn’t such a bad thing.

13. Optimism will always be the better option.

14. You really only live once so take advantage of the time that you have. If I want to have pink hair… well I’m going to have pink hair.

15. The Big Apple is not for me.

16. Settling for mediocre will only hurt me in the long run.

17. Be more assertive & SPEAK UP.

18. You’re grown. It’s time to make those big girl decisions.

19. Not everyone is like me, and that’s okay.

20. No goal is too big or too small.

21. Find yourself, your hobby, your passion! Your happiness will show. 


21 Lessons Learned at 21


It took me such a long time to come up with this list because I was really thinking hard about what has happened and how I’ve changed from it all.

Do I regret anything from the last year? No. Am I thankful for it all? Yes.

Life is about growing and changing, and I’m so blessed to have my life that I’m not going to spend one minute regretting anything! I’m just excited to see how I grow year after year.

Well, that’s all for this blog post. Have fun today! I know I will.

PS. Shoutout to all my Virgo babies! It’s OUR time.


21 Lessons Learned at 21


Until Next Time –




  1. September 8, 2017 / 2:32 pm

    Happy birthday sis love this look ☺️

  2. September 11, 2017 / 11:28 am

    Just discovered your blog! Love it Babe! You just gained a new reader 🙂

    • September 11, 2017 / 2:02 pm

      Thank you so much!! <3 Happy to have you!

  3. September 11, 2017 / 11:32 am

    Happy birthday girl!! One of the hardest lessons I learned in my 20s was about friendships too. It’s always hard to watch life take us elsewhere, but new ones always are right around the corner.

    Cheers to 22!!
    XO, Kristi | http://www.KristiMeansBusiness.com

    • September 11, 2017 / 2:07 pm

      Thank you, Kristi! This was definitely hard but such a good learning experience! It’s important to remember that as we grow within ourselves, everything around us grows as well! Change is inevitable.

      Thanks for reading! XO

  4. Holly
    September 11, 2017 / 11:37 am

    Love this! Great advice and super cute post!

  5. Marietta
    September 11, 2017 / 1:20 pm

    Happy Belated Birthday My Beautiful Gabby! I just sit back & read what you’ve written & say to myself “this lil girl is an adult now” but she’s still my baby! you’re doing an AWESOME job @ this blog & I feel that someone is being helped by what you’re writing, I know it helps Aunt Marietta. I love you Gabby!

    • September 11, 2017 / 2:09 pm

      That is truly what I hope for. I don’t want these posts to only benefit me but benefit someone else too!

      Thanks so much for reading! I love you more XO

  6. September 12, 2017 / 8:32 am

    Girl you look absolutely AMAZING in these photos! Love them. I definitely need to learn to be more assertive too, it’s difficult but we gotta do it x

    Alice http://www.accordingtoalicex.com

    • September 12, 2017 / 2:26 pm

      Ahh! Thank you, Alice! (: We really gotta do it.


  7. September 12, 2017 / 9:04 am

    Very cool, the style and flair is remarkable, happy to 21

    • September 12, 2017 / 2:27 pm

      So sweet! Thank you, Ramelle! (:

  8. September 12, 2017 / 9:49 am

    Happy Birthday! I love how thankful you seem for all that you’ve experienced. It sure seems like you have chosen to find the good and to be happy. I hope you have a great 22nd year of life!

    • September 12, 2017 / 2:28 pm

      Yes, I really do. Being optimistic is really something I strive for.

      Thank you! <3

  9. Muludejamtime
    September 12, 2017 / 9:56 am

    The life is full of amazing things. Keep learning pretty 😁 Happy birthday!

    • September 12, 2017 / 2:28 pm

      Will do! Thank you, love! XO

  10. rosannaalicia
    September 12, 2017 / 10:03 am

    Love these lessons, especially number 17!! One hat I think too many women learn to late or never master. You go girl! Rx

    • September 12, 2017 / 2:30 pm

      It’s so important for women these days. If not, we’ll get taken advantage of more often than not.

      Thanks for reading!

  11. September 12, 2017 / 11:55 am

    Absolutely love this list and there are some good reminders on here. These are definitely things you learn with time and experience. Thanks for sharing!

    • September 12, 2017 / 2:31 pm

      I agree! It’s so important to learn from everything that happens in life. I always try to take SOMETHING from it.

  12. September 12, 2017 / 12:06 pm

    What a fun way to celebrate your birthday love. I can relate to many things you have learned over the past year.

    I’m curious though about “The Big Apple is not for me.” Do you plan to move and find a place better suited for you?



    • September 12, 2017 / 2:34 pm

      So I don’t live in New York but I’ve visited there quite a few times. The atmosphere and fast-paced environment is just not where I see myself living right now or anytime soon.
      Right now I live in Dallas and I’m happy with it. If my career ever takes me anywhere else though, I would not be opposed to moving.


  13. September 12, 2017 / 12:41 pm

    i wish i knew so much at 21 ! well written ! good luck for your life, belated happy bday !

    • September 12, 2017 / 2:34 pm

      Aww, thanks so much! <3

  14. September 13, 2017 / 5:49 am

    Happy belated birthday! I’m turning 19 today, so I really appreciate this list! Awesome post!!

    • September 13, 2017 / 11:17 am

      Thank you so much!

      Happy Birthday, love! May your 19th year bring you so much joy! <3

  15. September 13, 2017 / 11:04 am

    Love your list, I always feel like birthdays are the perfect time for reflection! Happy birthday from a fellow Virgo! xoxo

    • September 13, 2017 / 11:17 am

      Hey, virgo babe! Thanks so much! XO

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